This month we’re diving into the second pillar of Developmental Relationships-challenging growth! Challenging growth pushes us to keep evolving by stretching ourselves to go further, holding ourselves accountable, and reflecting on failures to help us learn from mistakes and setbacks. We all need nudges that push us to work hard on achieving our goals. We challenge our kids, our partners, and ourselves to grow by pushing beyond what’s comfortable, raising questions, and testing abilities in ways that are demanding, stimulating, and motivating. It’s also important to keep heading in a positive direction by setting appropriate limits. These ideas and activities can help you examine how you challenge growth in the people you know!

Tips for challenging growth:

  1. Help a young person find their own solutions rather than just telling them what to do.
  2. Tell your friend about people and ideas that have inspired you.
  3. Challenge your partner to try things that are a little hard for them.
  4. Teach that making mistakes is part of learning.
  5. Praise your co-worker for working hard and sticking to tasks even if they do not get the right answer or win the competition.

Relationship builder activity: Proudest moment

Talk with an important person in your life about times that they have been proud of something they achieved. This thing can be something achieved without help or that was accomplished with assistance. Write down a word or phrase to summarize each time this person has felt proud. Then look over the list and ask them if one time stands out as their single proudest moment in life so far. Talk about what made that such a proud moment and what it might say about your their interests and talents and future. In the coming days and weeks, find other ways to help this important person feel a similar sense of pride in what they’ve accomplished.

Read on to learn how we at Camp Fire Columbia are putting the developmental relationships framework into practice!

Or dig into The Search Institute’s blog post on “How to Challenge Growth in Young People.”